Relationships... They can be really amazing but also really horrible! All depending on what type you have!

This is a topic I wanted to talk about today because I just recently lost my best friend over a relationship! We had been friends for 8 years! We were inseparable, spent every lunch break together, hung after school, every weekend, called each other every night for 3 hours! We were close!!
Two years ago she started dating this guy, who at first I really liked and was encouraging her to go after him, it wasn’t until they started dating that I realized he was bad news!!! Hes very controlling, makes her hang out with him all the time weather she wants to her not, always invites him self to things (like if you're having a girls night with a bunch of friends and sleeping over he'll invite himself). Not only does he boss her around though, he's bad news himself, he shoplifts all the time which you'd never guess from meeting him, he comes from a good family, has a good job, certainly makes enough to not have to steal! I'm just worried she's going to get in trouble one day because of him, they'd already been caught once.

Okay so let's get into the part about how their relationship ruined our friendship.. I was never really around her when she was with her boyfriend, they started dating second semester and he was in grade 12, we were in grade 11. He'd taken a all day coop placement at the place he currently now works for, so he was never at school. I had always heard about their relationship though, her being my best friend and all she told me everything, so I knew how bossy he was, also he has a.d.d so he can get very anger if he doesn't take his pills, he never hurt her or anything but would yell and get mad.

She had just turned 16 at the time they started dating so she still needed her mom to drive her to his house and whenever she wasn't aloud, the boyfriend would get mad and say "you never fight for our relationship" now I don't know about you, but I don't think your mom not driving you to his house one day is worth fighting over.
Anyways it was things like that, that I'd hear of from her, one day he did come into school and he was telling her to go out to lunch just them and leave me there, now me being the person i am didn't like that, I'm her friend and if she wants me to come I can, he shouldn't be bossing her around that way so I skipped up and said "you're going to let your controlling boyfriend control everything you do?". It was that moment right there the ruined our friendship, ever since he found out I didn't like him he wouldn't let her hang out with me, sure we'd hang at school, he didn't know he wasn't there, and grade 12 came around he was graduated, and we went thought grade 12 together like any other year, expect, he no longer talked on the phone or hung after school, anything like that. The only time shed come over was after school when she was going to his house, because school was out at 2:15 and he wasn't home from work til 4 (I lived close to the house and so did he, she didn't so she would have had to take the bus home and get a drive to his house) so it was prefect for her, especially in the winter to not have to wait around outside his house.

It started off that way, her using me for my house to stay at for a few hours, then graduating came. So we no longer saw each other everyday! And the crapping thing about not being in high school anymore is you actually need to make an effect to stay friends with your friends because you don't see each other everyday!

During the summer she'd text me from time to time to ask me to drive her to his house (since I had a car and she didn't). Then college, we go to the same college and see each from time to time in the hall. I'd text her all the time, and she'd answer 50% of the time, would hang for an hour on Mondays because we both had a break between classes, but that was it!!

Christmas break came, I texted her, she actually answered too

Me:I hope you have a good Christmas

Her: you too buddy, we need to hang next semester

(we had a month off school,and she actually didn't have one day she could've hung with me.. Intrusting)

Me: yeah maybe you can fit me in your schedule

Her: lol yeah, we'll have to compare schedules and maybe we have a break at the same time

Me: yeah cuz god knows you wont hang with me outside of school

Her: yeah sorry I'm really busy this week

Me: no its not about this week, it's about the past 2 years, (the said I huge paragraph about her bf)

Her: I know, I'm sorry, I know no one likes him and I'm sorry

Me: okay well I can't be your friend anymore, I'm not just gonna sit here while you be my friend 50% of the time, have a good life, i love you

And that was it, the last words ever spoken(typed) to each other.
It just makes ya wonder how much you'd have to "love someone" to ditch all your friends! I've been with my Boyfriend Erick for a year now and I've never ditched my friends for him.

Just makes me shake my head!! I'll he writing ALOT more about relationships, bad ones, good ones, what to look for, all that, just thought I'd start the series off with my story!

-chelsey <3